Having the setting be different from calling its actions was not a great
idea and made for the sake of the wrong convenience.

Instead of that, accept either fetch options, push options or the
callbacks when dealing with the remote. The fetch options are currently
only the callbacks, but more options will be moved from setters and
getters on the remote to the options.

This does mean passing the same struct along the different functions but
the typical use-case will only call git_remote_fetch() or
git_remote_push() and so won't notice much difference.